It also serves as a reminder that had they stayed, they too could be going on the trip. This tactic is done to show off to the ES. The EN will claim that the dream was theirs but it wasnt. Dream Stealer If the ES expressed a wish to take a European vacation, the EN will make it happen with the children and probably the new spouse.The EN knows this bothers the ES but does it anyway to maintain control of both the children and the ES. No doubt, this aggravates the ES who experienced and now despises witnessing it through the children. This mental abuse tactic is called push-pull. While the generosity inspires devotion (pulling the child in closer), the discipline sparks fear (pushing the child away). The oscillating tactics of extravagant generosity versus excessive discipline keep the child on edge. Excessive Discipline On the opposite extreme of generosity is disproportionate discipline for minor infractions.
This statement is said to elicit more praise, adoration, and keep the child committed to the EN. The EN will say, The child never thanked me, even when they did. However, once the devotion has dried up, the EN becomes angry and sometimes takes the gift back. The recipient children, in turn, feed the ENs ego with gratitude and feel a sense of obligation to be on the ENs side. This is usually done at random times so as to draw even greater amounts of attention. Unnecessary Generosity When a narcissist can be recognized or admired for their generosity, they can be very lavish with gifting.It doesnt matter what the truth is to the narcissist, it only matters how they can twist the truth to look superior. However, the house they have is because of the ENs achievements, not the joint effort of the prior marriage. For instance, an EN will claim the ES has no empathy and doesnt understand what the children are feeling. Any negative narcissistic traits are projected onto the ES, while the positive traits are preserved. Projection Ex-Narcissists (EN, this is not to say that the narcissist is no longer an ex, merely that they are an ex-spouse as well) tells children that it is really the ES who is the narcissist.But really, the narcissist is just using the children to attack the ex-spouse (ES). The next party on the victimization list is often the children. While the day-to-day distance can elevate the stress, anxiety, depression, and frustration of living with a narcissist, it doesnt stop them from being narcissistic. Local news direct to your inboxĪBC South East SA will deliver a wrap of the week's news, stories and photos every Friday. Sign up to stay connected.Divorcing a narcissist doesnt solve everything.
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The trial will continue later this month. Magistrate Koula Kossiavelos also refused applications from the media for the police videos because they had not yet been shown during Constable Moyle's evidence.Ĭonstable Moyle has been suspended with pay since last June. The defence put to the court that Constable Moyle had been following police training about escalation of force and that getting Ms Beck on her stomach to arrest her was much safer.Īn application by the defence for the trial be aborted because there was no case to answer was refused. He told the court that while she was on her back there was a chance she could spit on him, gouge at his eyes or scratch him.Ĭonstable Moyle told the court police were not able to give Ms Beck a ride home because they had been instructed by management not to carry a person in the back of a sedan due to the risk of COVID-19 infections. "I suggest that's where your annoyance and frustration got the best of you," Mr Mulvihill put to Constable Moyle.Ĭonstable Moyle agreed that he was much bigger than Ms Beck – who was 150 centimetres tall and weighed 50 kilograms – and that she never had a chance of overpowering him. Prosecutor Patrick Mulvihill suggested Constable Moyle lost control of his emotions, which led to him pushing and hitting Ms Beck, but Constable Moyle denied that multiple times.
The court also heard – but did not see footage of – Constable Moyle giving what he called two "distraction strikes" as Ms Beck grabbed hold of his collar so he could divert her attention and flip her from her back to her stomach and arrest her. ( ABC South East SA: Grace Whiteside) 'Distraction strikes' Media requests to have the police footage released were denied by the magistrate.
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